Project: Father

Helping yourself so you can help others

You know when you’re on an airplane and just prior to takeoff, the flight attendants run through the safety presentation? There’s a part in this overview where they talk about the oxygen masks that, if ever there’s an issues, drop from the compartment above each row of seats.

If you recall, the flight attendants are adamant about communicating the theory of helping yourself so you can help others. They urge you to, in an emergency, give yourself oxygen before giving it to others near you — whether they’re children, loved ones, friends, or perfect strangers.

I think about this often. On one hand, it goes against the very nature of what society considers a good person — a selfless, helpful, and kind person. On the other hand, it’s logical. How can you help anyone else if you, yourself, don’t have the ability to breathe?

Well, long story (at least a bit) short, this is a theory I believe parents need to adopt.

If parents are to offer their best to their children, they need to be at their best, too. But, how do we — fathers, especially — make ourselves better with the lack of time, growing list of responsibilities, and various other stressors caused by parenthood and adulthood?

Short answer: I have no idea.

Long answer: Let’s find out together.

As the First Time Father Project grows and evolves, I’m excited to grow and evolve alongside it. With that said, we’ve begun writing and commenting on dads improving themselves for the betterment of their families. We’ll be publishing this content directly to Medium, where you can find us at Project: Father.

Of course, as I’ve recognized that I need to help myself so that I may help others, I’ve tried to identify what exactly needs helping. Here’s a list I started and topics you might expect:

  • Money and finance
  • Fitness and health
  • Time management
  • Productivity
  • Stress and anxiety management
  • Safety
  • Goals

See a topic or have an idea for what we may want to cover? Let us know. Either way, we look forward to continuing this journey with you.