We are now a family of four

Welp, it’s been a while since I last updated 6 1/2 Years of Separation.

Here’s why: we are now a family of four!

As you can understand, it’s been a little busy around here as we adjust, re-acquaint and otherwise get to know each other.

Scarlett Rae was born Monday, Sept. 19 at 3:41 a.m. Monday, Sept. 19 at 3:41 a.m. also happens to be the moment everything changed.

What was three became four.

What was kid-friendly became baby-friendly.

What was love became love times two.

In the 16 days of our new existence, there have been some incredible ups and a few downs.

As any parent will attest and remember, labor, delivery and tending to a newborn is tough, tough work. Still, we’ve marveled at how different it has been this time around. I mentioned in my last update how different it all felt in the days leading up to the delivery and that feeling hasn’t changed.

And, since I’m quite confident my six-year-old isn’t one of my faithful readers, I can tell you this: it’s changed for the better. In fact, it’s so much better this time around.

My wife and I keep commenting how much easier it is. Now, the act of taking care of a newborn isn’t any different. Sure, she’s been sleeping a lot more than our first-born. She’s also not much of a fusser. But that doesn’t explain our status. The key to the raised enjoyment level this time around, however, has little to do with the baby.

It’s all on us.

We’re so much more relaxed than we were nearly six and a half years ago. That has led to a much higher appreciation and excitement for this period of parenthood.

Now, it’s not all rainbows and butterflies. The adjustment has been a tough one for one of us. Sophia, our six and a half year old, is experiencing her first of what is likely to be many adjustments in the years to come. She’s adjusting to her new normal, which is — suffice it to say — a lot different than her previous normal.




Ben Larsen

Written by: Ben Larsen

Ben is one of the founders here at First Time Father Project. Follow Ben's trial-by-fire parenting here with columns, essays and more. Learn more about him here.

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