Ask Your Father: Bon Jovi, KISS and my early childhood


One of my earliest memories is KISS frontman Paul Stanley using the “f word” as a verb in the Worcester Centrum. The year was 1983. I was on my dad’s shoulders and only 25 yards from the stage. We had floor seats. While I don’t know this as fact, I’m pretty sure I was the only kindergartner in the crowd.

One year later, my folks did it again. This time, it was the RPI Fieldhouse. (Prepare yourself for some dated references. Ready? OK … here’s goes.) This time a young band named Bon Jovi was opening for Ratt. Yeah, it was pretty sick.

So, why the reminiscing today?

Simple. Friend and writer Vivi Novello has officially joined the ranks of First Time Father Project’s favorite fatherhood bloggers. Here’s the twist: She’s 22 and has no kids. But she’s got a boss dad, and writes about fatherhood from the perspective of an adult child (a role with which many of us struggle). In the post that caught my attention and inspired the attached podcast, she tells the story of her relationship with her father through the lens of musical discovery and enjoyment.

It’s honest. It’s real. And it reminds us that not only are we able to maintain our pre-fatherhood passions, but with a little cultivation in the early years, these passions can become shared places where our family bonds can grow.

Thanks, Viv.

Kyle Belanger

Written by: Kyle Belanger

Proud father to three children (in order: one deceased, one adopted and one biological), Kyle is constantly navigating the worlds between actively grieving and openly gloating. Learn more about Kyle here.

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